A quick and dirty list of faults
- I am slow to forgive
-I allow my pride to cloud my judgement
- I am prone to depression and regret
- I feel socially inadequate when I feel down
- I have an annoying voice
- I keep stress in unhealthy places
- I have a chip on my shoulder about money
- I can know something is really bad but go through it as though I were watching someone else do it; I lose my sense of agency
- I can't shut up
- I imagine that my view of things is right and others' view, insofar as they don't agree with mine, must be wrong
- I would bend over backwards to help someone who doesn't like me and treats me badly, but my close friends I sometimes leave in the lurch
- I enjoy self-destructive behavior
- I can't normalize my relations with my father, despite trying to do so
- My austeries are an obvious form of OCD; I ritualize commonplace behavior to allow me to cope with the world
This is just off the top of my head.
4 Comments:
- I am slow to forgive
Which is normal and acceptable behavior. Also ensures that your forgiveness comes from the heart and isn't rushed.
-I allow my pride to cloud my judgement
Very few people don't.
- I am prone to depression and regret
Which also helps make you the sensitive and emotionally deep person you are.
- I feel socially inadequate when I feel down
Part of the human condition, my friend. We all do.
- I have an annoying voice
I disagree. I like your voice.
- I keep stress in unhealthy places
Yoga masters might know what to do with it, but I'm pretty sure you're with the bulk of the population here.
- I have a chip on my shoulder about money
Root of all evil.
- I can know something is really bad but go through it as though I were watching someone else do it; I lose my sense of agency
Interesting. I'd like to hear more about this.
- I can't shut up
You've got a lot to share.
- I imagine that my view of things is right and others' view, insofar as they don't agree with mine, must be wrong
A trait most have, but don't recognize - which makes you well ahead of the curve. Knowing is half the battle.
- I would bend over backwards to help someone who doesn't like me and treats me badly, but my close friends I sometimes leave in the lurch
I consider myself your close friend, and you've always been there for me.
- I enjoy self-destructive behavior
This is dangerous, so be vigilant.
- I can't normalize my relations with my father, despite trying to do so
That relationship is not yours to control. You can only bring yourself to the table. I think you've done pretty well.
- My austeries are an obvious form of OCD; I ritualize commonplace behavior to allow me to cope with the world
That's ok. I've got a degenerative nervous disorder - and sometimes I feel like an ass for making my wife carry things that I know I would spill or drop, but it gets me through the moment. As long as you're coping, the rest of us don't mind your indiosyncracies. In fact, we endear them.
Oh, I got another one:
I write stuff to fish for support, when really I should just ask (this is a joke, sort of). :)
dude, why are you beating yourself down! the world already does it to us, it pains me to see a friend do it on his own volition. you are a good friend and that is all that matters.
it's easy for us to harp on our faults, but you gotta balance the dark with the light. when i fall into this trap, i try to counter each point with a strength. why don't you try listing those? it takes courage to accept our faults and offer our strengths, instead. and ditto to what mark said. though it might feel belittling, the truth is, what you describe is not much different than what most of us feel. but what we feel is not what we are.
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